Shelly and I are reading Ed & Lisa Young's book, Creative Marriage.  We agreed to read a number of marriage books this year as a part of our yearly covenant together. It's important to keep learning and gaining new experiences especially in marriage. There is no magical thing that happens when you get married that makes you a pro at relationships, parenting, conflict resolution, and all the things that come with a marriage.  You have to work at it like everything else. It reminds me of an oil change, it sustains the vehicle and keeps it an its A game.  Investing time and reading marriage books or going to conferences does the same and is all the more important.